Updated: May 19, 2020
Now you’ve probably heard of the five love languages but have you heard of the five stress languages?
With everything that we are currently having to deal with it is likely that most people will be feeling anxious or stressed at some point however not everyone shows these emotions in the same way.
That’s why it’s important to understand the five different languages in which anxiety can be communicated so we can help our loved ones through this difficult time.
It is also possible to experience all of these, I know that I do so please do not feel ashamed if you feel like this is how you express your anxiety and stress. I thought I would just share this so you can understand how to deal with these emotions.
The Silencer – While we are stuck in the Corona Virus bubble it seems to be one of the only things to talk about which may be why some of us decide to go silent. It also could be that they have a lot on their mind and are currently trying to process all of their feelings on their own.
Give them a little space, remind them of different outlets they can use to express how they’re feeling. Also, try to keep the conversation away from the news as much as possible, there are so many other happier things we can be talking about.
The 10-minute tantrum – Anger is usually a disguise for stress but is a very unhelpful emotion especially when you are confined to a small space. First of all, if you know this is how someone you live with releases their stress, it’s important not to take what they say personally and if you can help it try not to add fuel to the fire. Give them time to cool off and once they have calmed down take the time to talk through what caused the outburst and try and find a solution. If their anger is affecting you personally you should also raise this with them because your mental health needs to be considered too.
The Scaremonger – This is someone who usually likes to check the news regularly and discuss each new headline intensely. There are two reasons why people may do this, the first is that they scare others so they can feel a sense of accomplishment when they are able to comfort them or they like to share their new-found knowledge so they can be reassured by others that is isn’t as bad as it seems.
Both of these aren’t particularly helpful and while it is important to stay informed it can be harmful to our mental health to be constantly checking for updates. If someone continues to bring up subjects that are causing excessive stress to try to change the subject and if that doesn’t deter them then you will need to approach them about how they are making you feel. If they care about you they should reduce unnecessary conversations.
The one who can’t stop crying – While some may see crying as a weakness it is actually a great way to release emotions and can help you feel less stressed. It can be difficult if you or someone you live with is constantly feeling upset but they are probably struggling right now so try to be patient. Ask them if there is anything you can do to help and try to take their mind off of the situation by doing something enjoyable, it can take a different amount of time for all of us to adjust so this is where we need to be kind.
The over-sleeper – Finally, it can be difficult to find motivation right now so some people who are experiencing stress and/or anxiety might struggle to even do the smallest of tasks because they already feel overwhelmed.
Be patient with these people, much like the Silencer the Over-sleeper might be fighting some silent battles that you don’t know about. The best thing you can do is remind them that you are there for them if they need you and try to encourage them to make small steps in the right direction.
Which one of these characteristics do you show most when you’re feeling anxious and how do you cope with them?